I have been blessed to be adopted by my Scotts. I have a mom, dad, three older brothers and two older sisters. My first year away at college, before the end of the year, my oldest sister, Christin, called me at my dorm. My birth mother had found my brother and I. So we called her three way and for the first time I got to hear my birth mother's voice.
Life has been a roller coaster, to say the least, but a good ride none the less. I learned that I was the second oldest of a bunch, lol. My older brother and I had a little sister, two half brothers and a half sister from my birth mother, and two half brothers from my birth father's side. I know, this'll make a good book someday. Give me time to write it though...
I am happy to report that I still am in contact with most of my blood siblings. Heck, siblings.
My birth mother and father are alive and well! They have had crazy lives and been through so much, most of I probably won't hear about, lol. But they are good and honest people.
Just over a year ago I had the great honor of meeting more of my birth mother's family. Overall the trip was a blast! And man, can Mary and Gator cook!!!
My older brother and I had the pleasure of meeting my birth father's mother when we were flown out to meet our birth parents and our two youngest siblings, who are, by the way, so cool! I'd like to mention that I do have another sister that died soon after birth... I count her!
Anyways, I've been so blessed to have been raised by a wonderful family who love me. On top of that I have another family, blood wise, that is in my life too. How many people out there just want a mom or a dad?! And I got them all...
I am blessed to have a kind loving husband that takes my feelings, no matter how crazy they may be at the moment, into consideration. Together we have a wonderful 3 year old who brightens our daily lives with his angelic voice, silly questions, and amazing smiles. Soon, though not soon enough, we'll have another child. We're looking at some time in early March here, lol.
We are excited about this blessing from above and nervous, pray that we will be in our very first house just before the baby is born. Maybe that's too much pressure, lol.
Family is important, no matter how anyone may feel. If you're in a good family, like myself, then you know how blessed you truly are. But if you're in a bad family, where you're not really sure if they'll stay or go, then you struggle more than I can begin to imagine.
Yes, I do get into the occasional tiff with my younger siblings. Sure I may have to ignore the dramatic ones for medical reasons. But I still love them and will forgive them, although I may not believe or trust them to an extent. But that's what most families are about. I've done the same with many loved ones in my life.
Sure I do not contact my loved ones like I should... I know that everyone is going through a hard time right now.
Bless my parents hearts... My sister Heather passed away last November, my fav. guy cousin recently found out he has colon cancer, his dad is not doing well, and my dad's mom is having a hard time... One of my dad's little sisters passed away a few years ago, he lost his dad a few years before that... Oh, bless his heart.
My parents go over every week to be with my Katchners. They help where they can and be with the kids. I'm so grateful for that!!! And Eldon is trudging through. He's a lot stronger than he gives himself credit for.
Christin, although an incredibly busy mom of four amazing and talented boys, still takes the time to talk to me when she can. She and Heather used to be mistaken for the other when they both worked in the mall back in the day, lol. So she's taken it hard too. But she still gives amazing advice!!!
Unfortunately I don't really talk to my brothers. But I love them so much. Everyone has a weakness and hard times throughout their life. So I try to be understanding!
I feel like I've had the chance to really get to know my birth parents. My birth mother is a strong independent woman who has been through many hells in her life. She has yet to tell me a straight out lie. She constantly worries about her children, no matter where they are or what they're doing.
As for my birth father, he works hard a lot. He can fix up just about any vehicle out there. I've never heard even a mechanic go on the way he does, lol. He tells you like it is and if you can't handle it that's not his problem. He does not go out of his way to hurt anyone. He is a kind and honest man.
I feel that sometimes people tend to forget that their family members have feelings too. I cannot begin to say how many times a sibling has gotten offended by a mere text that was innocent or had well intentions behind them. Or how many times someone has told me what they texted our birth father and his reaction. All I can do is smack my hand on my forehead and scream in my head, "What did you expect. You're beyond rude. Now go and apologized and set things right!!!"
So if you've been blessed with a family that loves you and is, for all intents and purposes, a good family then tell them how much you love them. Think back on bad times and try and put yourself in their shoes. Don't send any rude messages via text or electronically.
This has gotten me into trouble, as the person doesn't know my mood, my emotion, or the tone I'm meaning things to be. But I tell those that are still close to me that I love them. I feel that sometimes that's all they need to hear. They've blessed my life so much, more than they'll ever know. So I hope to return the favor.
God Bless
Caralyn Young
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